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&renae; ([personal profile] girlgangs) wrote2016-02-11 09:12 am

fathers, be good to your daughters: pt. i

My dad phoned me last night to tell me that he's having surgery on the ulnar nerve in his left arm a week from tomorrow. He's been experiencing numbness in his pinkie and ring finger, and could lose the use of his left hand altogether if he doesn't get it sorted out; and he also told me in his direct, matter-of-fact way that he could pass on the operating table.

Some people might get indignant on my behalf, or assume my dad is being dramatic, but he's worked in hospitals for years and, in his own words, he's "seen it happen time and time again."

The truth is, I appreciate his honesty, even if it's a very scary thought. My dad and I have grown closer over the last ten years than I ever believed was possible, and I feel like he's trying to do one of the many things he should have done when I was a kid: prepare me in case things go awry.

I promised him I'd call next Thursday evening, before his surgery the following afternoon. I told him I loved him. I'll tell him again.

Irony of ironies, the episode of Skins I watched immediately after we hung up featured a character's father dying out of the blue.
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[personal profile] lunairetic 2016-02-11 07:09 pm (UTC)(link)
:( I hope his surgery goes well. ♥
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[personal profile] ggmoonycrisco 2016-02-11 07:19 pm (UTC)(link)
Wow, what a conversation to have. The honesty is nice though. Best wishes for your dad on the operating table!

I feel like my dad has had a similar surgery at one time, though he's had so many wrist surgeries I've lost track at this point.
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[personal profile] autoignition 2016-02-11 07:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Good thoughts going towards your dad. I've been really happy over the past over the last few years hearing the way that your relationship has improved. Are you going to go visit him while he recovers?
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[personal profile] ggmoonycrisco 2016-02-11 08:10 pm (UTC)(link)
My dad's were all from work-related injuries, but he has the same issues as far as fingers falling asleep/numbness up his arm. Your dad might look into getting a wrist brace to sleep in at night after the surgery. Or, you know, the surgeons might tell him to do that, I guess...
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[personal profile] ggmoonycrisco 2016-02-11 08:18 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't actually know if they'll put him all the way out for wrist surgery, come to think of it. Either way, I'll keep him in my thoughts!